A few days ago, I learned that
dementia and her daughter will attempt to fulfill wishes on
holiday_wishes everyday until Christmas. Their big hearts have inspired me to fulfill a few of them of my own, mostly the ones that don't cost any money (though I did make one small donation... I won't say to whom or what).
My focus on wish-granting today was for those tagged under "significant others."
tribute_mutant asked for
gift ideas for her boyfriend, so I happily obliged with this idea. I'm sharing it here for fellow LJers who could pull it off.
I don't think I mentioned it here before, but for our one-year anniversary, I compiled all my LJ entries about MF and selected our happiest memories together. I handwrote them in a lovely notebook (and changed pens/handwriting to make it look like I wrote each entry on a different day) and was able to fill most of the notebook. I wrote a love letter at the end.
When our one-year anniversary came around, I gave him many other gifts from China but kept the notebook. There were a number of reasons why. Partly, it was because it felt unfinished. It was supposed to chronicle our first year together, but a good chunk of that was while we were on different sides of the world, so the book was shorter than it could have been. Mostly, it was because I was a little selfish and wanted to keep the book for myself. Whenever I really missed him, I would open the book and read a few pages, reliving the happy moments again. I still do that sometimes. I told him about the book the night before I left Syracuse, and he wanted to see it, but the book was in LA. Didn't bring it with me to the East Coast... didn't need it.* I was making new happy memories in New York with him.
I added another entry to the notebook after the love letter and will probably add a few more later on. The notebook could plausibly be full by the time Christmas comes around, so I will give it to him then.
The reason why I said "for LJers who could pull it off," I think the reason why this works is because he doesn't read my LJ. So I have over a year's worth of private/public/filtered entries about him which he's never read before.
Perhaps next year, I will do what
welfy did for
soopageek and create a fancy scrapbook. But it doesn't sound like those come cheap at all. Also, it requires tons of photos of us. I'll probably have to get a camera soon so I can start collecting for a year's worth of photos. :)
* You could argue that I don't really need the book anyway since they're based on LJ entries, and I could access them as long as I have a computer and internet connection. But it's not the same, people!